July 14 2020
There is no not “shaming of people for what they are or are not doing, not knowing their situation has got to stop… both ways… all sides… right left… whatever.” When others refuse to feel shame about their behavior, you call that lying and blaming others and that person is not taking responsibility, which forms a social comparison that is status-seeking. This preoccupation with seeking status or the strong tendency to compare yourself with surpassing others is what you call anger. What consumes you in a state of anger is arrogance and contempt, where you harbor jealousy and resentment. It’s what makes you prone to hypocrisy and betrayal. So, shaming others is not necessarily about pointing out a person’s inadequacy, but about looking to curtail behavior that seeks to outdo and surpass you. There is no “stop worrying about what others are doing and worry about yourselves” because dependent origination is what controls whether phenomena exist or not. Phenomena are those SITUATIONS that you observe to exist, whose cause is in question. Everything in the world comes into existence in response to causes and conditions, so nothing can exist independent of other things or arise in isolation, much less in human society. Harboring jealousy and resentment are feeling or showing envy of others’ achievements and advantages. They feel bitter indignation toward you and what provokes this ANGER is what they perceive as unfair treatment. This contention or predisposition toward conflict with others arises from their self-centered ambitions, but eliminating attachments to transient phenomena in this world and to the ego, or the perception of self as an independent and fixed identity is easier said than done. With so many earthly burning desires, not fulfilling your desires imposes a condition of hunger; but When you use your desires creatively, they can provide you with the energy to improve yourself and advance. On the other hand, desires can be a place where you are driven by such intense cravings that it know no bounds to the point of devouring your own children, then it becomes characteristic of a “kill or be killed” motivation to that of an animal having no basis in reason or logic. Feeling shame for the negative causes you are making allows you to reflect on your behavior and to change it into something more positive, which can more so benefit you and society. Being human is about composure and tranquility, with the quality of reason that enables you to distinguish right from wrong and help you to make good judgments. Improving the situation is a possibility, but requires a good deal of self-control and your efforts to become more thoughtful, even when negative influence is all around.
Response to comment: “Shaming others is not going to help your cause. Only makes you a judgmental person. Time to stop worrying about what others are doing and worry about yourselves. 💕